Do you find yourself stuck in your current job, feeling a pit in your stomach right after you start working?
Do you keep asking yourself: “How can I find a way out of here?“
I know exactly how that feels.
I found my door-to-door job, where I booked free energy efficiency surveys a real struggle.
To name a few challenges: dealing with rejections, working no matter the weather conditions and as you know, Ireland is not known for its nice weather, robotically repeating the same doorstep pitch, having nowhere to go to a restroom and so on.
I found it extremely difficult to be positive and I felt my energy was drained after an hour or two of work.
On really bad days, I screamed in my car completely frustrated: “I cannot do this anymore! I hate this job! “ All I wanted was to go home and play with my son, Gasper.
Within the last year, I have had to switch nannies seven different times and when the last babysitter came, Gasper needed more love and attention than ever before. He would often come crying into our bedroom calling “Mama! Mama!”
This made me realize that something had to change. I had never dreaded going to work so much in my entire life and for me, sacrificing my son’s and my own happiness for a job I didn’t even like, was unacceptable.
So I decided to quit. After a year and 3 months.
Oh God, I cannot even describe to you how good it feels to be home with my little boy! Seeing his happy face means everything to me.
So, when is the right time to quit your job?
There is no right answer, but here are some clues that might help you decide if you should start considering to quit your job:
1) The environment you are in is not aligned with your personal values
I never felt honesty, integrity or team spirit among my colleagues or management. But I thought that I could still make it work if I made my work into a challenge or a game and focus on all the positive aspects of the job. This didn’t really ever improve my enjoyment but it just prolonged my decision to quit. I learned that my instincts were right from the start. But I ignored them.
3) You feel that you are a victim, that you do not have any other choice
4) You want to prove to yourself and others that you can withstand all the pain
I wanted to prove myself and others that I can be tough and resilient. I thought that I could be so positive and mentally bulletproof that the rejections and negativity wouldn’t impact me. But in the end I realized that I was just denying what my feelings were telling me. I was playing a game I couldn’t win because I was playing a game against myself.
Even if I think I need to prove something, wouldn’t it be better to prove that I can actually live a joyful life, that I don’t need to suffer in order to grow and be happy? That would be much more enjoyable process than proving myself that I can withstand all the resistance.
You are not here to suffer and by enduring through the suffering you don’t prove anything to anybody.
Isn’t suffering already a lesson in and of itself?
Since I found SFM community, I started thinking about my ideal day. It created a new possibility, a vision where I flow through the day with ease and joy, following the path of my heart no matter what it takes rather than compromising what I believe like I did with this job: “This job is fine BUT I have to lie…This is fine BUT…“
Let’s create a life without a BUT! Are you with me?